Divorce Doesn’t Have to Damage Children
Children often become the most traumatized victims of divorce when parents use them as pawns in a relentless chess game of parenting plans and child support shifting.
“Divorce is a journey that the children involved do not ask to take. They are forced along for a ride where the results are dictated by the road their parents decide to travel.”
Perhaps the worst possible behavior by any parent before, during or after divorce, is if they deliberately and systematically attempt to remove the other parent from their child´s life. Of course, in any case where the child´s health and safety is at risk, the child´s welfare must come first. However, the sad reality is that parental alienation more often than not stems from one parent lashing out at the other through the children.
“Parental Alienation is an emotional act of violence that is aimed at an adult, but critically wounds a child.”
With roughly 50% of all marriages ending in divorce, the question then becomes, how do we end unhealthy relationships and move forward without putting our children in the middle? How do we move on while ensuring our children stay innocent and continue to feel safe, protected and loved? How do we successfully co-parent with someone who has hurt us?
“When both parents tell the children together it minimizes the fear that they will be abandoned by one parent.”
This month´s ezine expert articles below, will help any parent, in any stage of divorce, to keep the divorce a child-centered one. At Divorce Money Matters® and our sister site, DivorceTown USA®, you will find professionals who care about you and your children and are here to provide help, hope, and support. Through our network of divorce professionals (which include counselors, therapists, financial advisors, mediators, realtors, family attorneys and many more) we continue to assist families facing divorce to do so amicably and cooperatively whenever possible, and – even when not possible – guiding you to protect yourself and your children throughout the process.
Wishing your family, a happy and successful New Year, whatever challenges it may bring.
Expert Articles:
7 Steps to Co-Parenting Success After Divorce
By: Rosalind Sedacca, CDC & Voice of International Child Centered Divorce Month
The Ripple Effect – Preserving Children’s Interests During a Divorce
By: Rebecca Rusk, MPA, GRN, CHSP, CCR