Did You Know There are Multiple Ways to Divorce?
One of the most overwhelming things about the divorce process is often where to begin and who to start with.
The fact is that we are seeing monumental shifts in the “traditional” litigated divorce process as more and more people discover the financial, mental and emotional benefits of working cooperatively rather than antagonistically.
“It’s hard to go through a divorce. It’s even harder to live with the wrong person for the rest of your life. How we live our lives depends on the choices we make today. What do you choose – pain or joy? ~ Shey Perera”
Of course, when divorce is precipitated by an irrevocable betrayal of trust, emotions can run high and acting objectively becomes that much more difficult. However, by assembling the right team of advocates and/or neutrals right from the start, you’ll find the support and guidance you need to stay objective and focused on getting through the process in the healthiest way possible.
What if one person simply refuses to cooperate or if you feel like you simply don’t agree on any of the issues on the table? The truth is, that anything you can collaborate on is better than nothing. Any time the children’s needs and interests are put first, everyone benefits in the long run. Any financial issue that can be resolved outside a courtroom is better than none.
“You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be. ~ Wayne W. Dyer”
So, who should you meet with first? If financial issues are your most pressing, try starting with a financial neutral like a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®) like me. I’d be happy to get your started on the right path. You can schedule a FREE 15 minutes consultation here.
If you are looking for a general neutral party outside of a court setting search for a Mediator. If mental or emotional health is an issue, or if you are dealing with behavioral issues with your children, perhaps counseling or therapy is the best first step for you. If you’d feel more comfortable getting your legal questions answered first, look for an attorney that participates in the amicable divorce process. You can find divorce professionals at DivorceTown USA® that can serve you in any or all of these ways. Click Here to download your free illustrated Divorce Road Map to show help you choose the best divorce path for you.
“I can’t change what I’ve been through, but I have the power to decide what will continue. ~ Lauren Alicia”
Stop for a second. Take a breath. Evaluate your situation. Be objective as possible and then take step one. Be a proactive partner, not a passive participant. Even if your partner initiated the divorce process, you can still control how you react and who will be part of your divorce team.
At DivorceTown USA® our professionals stand ready and qualified to help you successfully navigate this process. This month’s issue features two of their articles highlighting the benefits of Mediation and the amicable divorce process as you consider how to proceed or what to do first/next.
Divorce doesn’t have to be scary and there is no reason for you to face it alone.