Help for a divorcing parent of a teen!
June 11, 2010 2:48 pm Blog
Hi Lisa,
I’m trying hard to get through this divorce mess in the best way possible. My teenage son on the other hand is really acting out. My soon-to-be ex-husband seems to be non-existent right now so I feel the weight of all of this coming down on me and don’t know where to turn. Can you offer any ideas?
P.R., Philadelphia, Pa.
P.R.,
As you know, divorce is difficult enough for adults who are supposed to have the maturity to act maturely, even though some do not. It can be even tougher on children and teens who are already dealing with the tumultuous time of adolescence.
I encourage you to find yourself and your son, a therapist for each or both of you who you feel comfortable working with. A therapist or counselor can offer guidance and suggestions on how to deal with the emotions of divorce and offer positive coping mechanisms. Many places in the country offer support groups online and off as well. Avail yourself of whatever resources you need to bring you comfort and strength right now.
We all know that the teen years can be trying for any parent, divorcing or not. Be the example that you want him to see. You cannot change what his father is doing or not doing, but you can control how you react and the things that you say. Remember that you may be divorcing your husband, but he will always be his son’s father and so avoid the temptation to say negative things in front of your son as hard as that may be.
Best regards,
~ Lisa ~
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